Tuesday, July 28, 2015

why do people stay in violent relationship ?

yesterday I got a patient aged around 25 yrs beaten blue and black by her partner.She refused to file a compliant .On top of it husband and his relatives demand her to go back to his house.I understand from his point of view ,he wants to escape from police action ,he wants to still dominate the lady.What I don't understand is why she is willing to put up with abuse. Is it social pressure ,or any of the things.So I went to google to look at literature ...

          The reality is the abused, like my client, aren't always fragile or powerless. They come from all walks of life -- rich, poor, strong, weak -- and from both genders, female and male.
They don't stay for the pain, they stay for love.
          Victim-blaming is dangerous enough that, in summarizing the conclusions
(link is external) of hundreds of studies on domestic violence, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services cites, as a barrier to ending domestic violence, the brute fact that "peers, family members, and others in the community.
          These are just two lines that I copied, from psychologytoday , and have seen similar writeups, from other sites.
          I think people should understand that unless we assert our right for healthy and honorable life we don't get it,so people we should stop putting up with abuse be it from abusive partner, irresponsible civil servant or unresponsive politician .
         We should be the change we want in our life.
                               

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

life after YSR in hyderabad.

shock of hearing ysr' s disappearance and death had not yet gone we were plunged into power struggle between the two groups
Then came the telengana agitation followed by united andhra agitation to be followed again by telengana agitation which is still continuing.
mean time people have become settlers in their own capital city

Friday, July 31, 2009

new daddy

Hi readers,
I became a father of twins last week. its a great feeling . am still in the skies .
The enormity of the responsibility of bringing up two kids has still not sinking in.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Humour

Have we lost humour in our lives?
Have we become intolerant?
Where is that famous hospitality we are famous for?

Monday, December 8, 2008

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH

Last week we had terrible attack on Mumbai, immediately all news channels went on air shouting about what was happening. In their quest for TRPS they even disregarded basic decency and also compromised the operational secrecy of the armed forces.
We got to see commondos being airdropped .
I personnally think we should all get together and try to get the TV channels to see light .simplest way would be to switch off that channel and get our friends and other people to do the same.
When people dont see what they are showing then may be will get some decency.......
WE GET WHAT SORT OF LEADERS WE DESERVE.
carrying that forward,we can say
WE GET WHAT SERVICE WE DESERVE,either from Tv channels or companies, or from government.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Motivation...............

Its long time since I have posted anything.As usual I start something, then after sometime leave it and run after some other thing.
Is it lack of clarity or is our attention span so less.
When you think back on great people who in spite of great odds did things which interested them,you know the difference between winners and rest of the world.
What motivates people?
Is it money
fame,in all its forms,
to do good to humanity,
to do the right thing just because it is right ?

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

NO ONE REALLY LISTENS TO ANYONE .....

No one really listens to anyone else,and if you try it for a while you will see why. MIGNON McLAUGHLIN.
When I first read this line I started thinking should we listen to everybody around, to all sorts of advice people dole out.Where would our civilization be if everybody listened to the elders to the authority figures ? Still beliveing Earth is flat, undergoing phelebotomy for diseases, go to witch doctor for remedy( hundereds of people still do that... only they are astrologers not witch doctors)